Berlin, Berlin Wall, Breakup, Creative Reaction, Germany, Levis, Men Fashion, Travel

How are borders established during a breakup?

Berlin Wall

After a breakup how do you know what you should or shouldn’t do? Do you talk to your ex in establishing rules for an amicable breakup? Or loose complete communication and do what ever you want? It’s hard, because you do care for your ex. You wish their wellbeing and happiness. Eventually, sometime you will become friends, and if it doesn’t happen, establish a little bit of respect towards each other. These thoughts, made me think of the Berlin wall. Take it as a breakup, you could end up being either eastern or western Germany. Not comparing economic and political situations, just as a resemblance of the situation. By the way, I took the picture above one of the times I visited Berlin. I was wearing my favorite white tennis shoes, Creative Reaction and Black Levis Jeans. The picture makes the situation equal, the only difference are the bricks representing  the location of the Berlin wall. Separating what once was a unified city.

There is always good and bad communication between people, and more in these types of situations. You expect the borderline to include several acts or forms of respect, but your ex believes respect in a  different matter. It’s normal, not everyone thinks alike. How do you know that borderline? Do you errase his cellphone number? Do you delete the only way to listen to their voice. The choice was made, its over.

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Part of Berlin Wall. Berlin, Germany

I believe positive and even negative emotions could be represented as the families that were separated during this tough time. They may miss each other, because again, emotions sometimes overrule thoughts. It’s normal if it happens, we are humans. Once the time has passed and comes a situation that could be represented by President Ronald Regan tearing the wall, there could be peace and conformity which ever the outcome. You cannot control yourself, there is no book or rules that dictate what to do in a breakup. There must be respect though, towards your ex.

Has it ever happened to you, once you act in a foul way, something equally as bad happens back to you. It’s Karma, if you act in a positive matter, a positive act will occur to you. It’s easy, so every time a negative thought possesses you, think it could happen to you. During the time boundaries are set, there is a mutual respect that should be taken. If an emotion gets through the wall, and meets that same emotion and a positive outcome occurs, thats great. But, if a negative emotion gets through and there is a negative situation. You may feel like falling down, but always remember to keep your head up, because your searching for your own happiness.

Part of the Previous Berlin Wall. Berlin, Germany

Part of the Previous Berlin Wall. Berlin, Germany

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Breakup, Feelings, Las Vegas, Party, Travel, USA

Post Birthday Depression

Encore Beach Club, Las Vegas

Encore Beach Club, Las Vegas

Well the attention is over, the good wishes are said and its time to return to reality. The following pictures were taken last year during my birthday celebration in Las Vegas. I had an amazing time, but still everything that goes up must come down. All the happy times, good moments must end sometime. Right now I’m feeling a Post Birthday depression. It’s obvious to feel this way. I miss my ex, I truly do. But what I miss the most is the company of being with someone. I am going against the rebound rule. I need to learn to be by myself. I need to learn to love myself.

You can imagine yourself in the picture, of if you have gone to the Encore Beach Club, you know its a height of emotions. You will not feel lonely because you are around so many people, but what happens when your alone and feel that emptiness? How long is this emptiness going to last? Is there a time limit you will get this feeling? I need to stop thinking these questions and begin new hobbies. I wish to feel like myself again.

Encore Beach Club, Las Vegas

Encore Beach Club, Las Vegas

I would love to hang out with my ex, but I know if I see him it would just be harmful for me. If you analyze the photographs every single person have different thoughts, personalities, hobbies and goals in life. This means that you are not alone in the world, many people are feeling the way you are doing. You just need to suck it up and be strong, no one will do it for you. I will not fall into seeing him again, I am a strong human being and these are just emotions.

If I stay strong, you better stay strong as well. We are not alone in this situation, I have my readers, followers and friends. These emotions are normal, its like quitting smoking, you are craving that cigarette. Can I compare my relationship to an addiction to nicotine? Maybe this is just an obsession that I have with my ex. I need to begin my new life and be strong. Remember there are many people in this planet, you are not alone.

Group of Brits at Encore Beach Club, Las Vegas

Group of Brits at Encore Beach Club, Las Vegas

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Breakup, Life, Love, Morocco, Travel

Does Love evolve as we grow older?

Love

Love is a word that means the same thing in every language, but does the meaning of the word evolve in time? I saw this postcard at Jardin Majorelle inside the former residence of Yves Saint Laurent in Marrakech. I felt attached to it, because it had my birth year and the design of it. The past couple of days have been memorable and pure fun. I didn’t have to think of no one else, the outcome was going to be an adventure. I met so many different people, hanged out with new and old friends.  I experienced different types of love from a lot of people. It’s always good to have people around you when your going through a breakup. Friends that you met while you were going in college, friends that you met when you were 5 years old and others that grew up with you. The best feeling during my birthday weekend, was to feel loved by who I was and my personality.

There is a feeling of desperation during a breakup but it always go away. I remember something that my mother always told me, no one will love you like you love yourself. I must admit, I knew this all the time but after this weekend I finally applied it in my life. I began loving myself, I am a pretty cool guy. I forgot how fun I can be without the pressure of categorizing myself in a negative manner. I enjoyed my birthday and I may have done some minor mistakes, but everyone makes them. There is no right or wrong way to go through this. Again, this is a process.

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Marrakech

Marrakech YSL House

Being single is a whole new experience. When is it ok to meet someone? Does the rebound situation work? Is my ex dating someone else? Many questions come to mind. Many people give you advice but its your choice to answer your own questions how ever you please. Still, during my situation I believe I need to just have fun and learn to love myself and be single. After this weekend I received affection, attention, and pure love. But, I also received insight into how love has evolved. Love is something that it will have nothing negative in context but it does change. Experiences, decisions, choices in life make you love differently.

You need to love yourself to gain strength and find what is your true happiness. Don’t feel ashamed of anything that is done. Always keep in mind that your exploring yourself. You are being that beautiful blue villa, always keep in mind to share love and be true to yourself. No one will love you, like you love yourself.

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Attention, Eiffel Tower, Feelings, Paris, Picnic, Positivity, Travel, Wine

Social Media Attention, a new treatment to soothe a breakup

Eiffel Tower 2014

What do thoughts come to mind when you see the Eiffel Tower? Can you imagine all the pictures that have been taken of the Eiffel Tower? It’s imposible to know how many pictures have been taken or paitings done inspired by it. Every single person that I know and you may know who traveled to Paris, have taken a picture of it. This reminds me of the importance of getting attention from social media. After breaking up, there is a search for acceptance and attention of your followers on social media. It may not matter to you, but if you relate to it, did it help?  Do you feel better that your accepted through all the social media applications. It may soothe your breakup but not overcome it.

Thats why I chose this picture, I took at the Eiffel Tower back on two thousand fourteen. It was a magical moment, there had been preparations all day for a perfect picnic. I recommend a bottle of french white Sauvignon and crab salad with crackers. The weather was gray and cloudy. There were families, group of students, tourist from many parts of the world and even locals.

Eiffel Tower

There are no rules on how to get over a breakup. If social media attention is a remedy to soothe a breakup, well do it. After you breakup, the connection to another person is missing. You have said goodbye, left the relationship. There is no one else to judge you. You are the Eiffel Tower, you are strong, iconic and transcendental. Even though buildings or situations may cover part of you, you can still see a part of it. The important fact is to stay true to yourself and follow your heart and mind.

I chose the pictures to be gray because I ran into many troubles today. Many obstacles showed up today, some issues woke up anger inside me. There were negative thoughts and words said today. But at the end of the day, this is a process, there is no right or no wrong answer. It is always best to take positive or negative things as they come. Never try to hide or evade, face them face to face. This is a process, its like flipping a coin, you don’t know the outcome.

A smile can change the day, and today a random person smiled to me, it was an old lady that I saw at a grocery store. So I began sharing a smile whenever it was appropriate. Relating to the interpretation of the pictures of the Eiffel tower with todays topic. I have fallen into that category, I have taken several pictures with the Eiffel Tower.

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Travel

There is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

Inverted Tower, Quinta da Regaleria, Sintra, Portugal.

Inverted Tower, Quinta da Regaleria, Sintra, Portugal.

Being single after a seven year relationship is tough. Your way of life changes in a single second. After always thinking for two, asking for a table at restaurants for two, booking plane tickets for two even getting a hotel room for two now is reduced to one. Can it be easy to recover your identity after always having to think for two? When will it become normal to just be comfortable by yourself? Is there a specific time where you will be back to your normal self?

That is why I chose todays picture, I took it when I visited with my ex the impressive park of Quinta de la Regaleira in Sintra, Portugal. Walking through the park, there are many exotic plants. There are natural spring waters coming from the hill, and inside a tiny grotto, there is a statue of Leda. Following one of the many roads, there is a big grotto out of the blue. To reach the light out of the cavern, you need to go through a dark passage and at the end of the tunnel you see the inverted tower with seven floors climbing to the light. There are some stairs that are complete but others are missing some pieces. Its a gloomy and unique experience. I truly recommend this park if your in Sintra, Portugal.

Inside the Grotto leading to the Inverted Tower

Inside the Grotto leading to the Inverted Tower

This brings into perspective, how the process of ending a relationship works. Consider the park to be your life, there are many roads to reach different sections of it. Each road represents a time in your life with your couple. If you are happy and fully satisfied in your relationship you reach the end of the park. But if your going through a road and several situations in life make you see a grotto, an opening to something unknown and you see a light at the end of it. You must take it to find your happiness. That light at the end of the tunnel is your happiness. There will be many troubles along the way. But you will reach the light, reach true happiness.

Climbed the Inverted Tower to the top.

Climbed the Inverted Tower to the top.

I began this blog, to tell my process of how this unfolds for me. I will be posting pictures of my past trips and current trips and relate the image to an experience that im going through. This may help followers who are going through a similar experience, or at least get a different perspective. I will not try to pursue anyone. This may help any person who is stuck in a tumultuous relationship. I am writing it because this will be a life chaining moment for me. I was going to be engaged. I was the one to propose.  My identity was lost and my happiness became my couple’s happiness. I forgot about myself.

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